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“A decision with less self is automatic and rooted in emotion. One with more self has that heartbeat or two’s worth of time when you can ask yourself, What is my responsibility here?”
― Kathleen Smith, True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself

“Narcissistic abuse always entails blame shifting. Nothing is ever their responsibility or their fault because for a narcissistic person to take responsibility or accept blame means having to accept that they are accountable and imperfect.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

“Laziness, especially in this context, is not bad. In fact, part of being a wholehearted, integrated person is embracing that you can’t do A-level work in every part of your life. You must actively choose to let some things be easy or lazy so that you can focus on what matters the most.”
― Kendra J. Adachi, The PLAN: Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius

“Speaking directly doesn’t mean you lack empathy or consideration for the other person’s feelings. Being direct means that you have the self-assurance that you can respect the other person, as well as yourself, enough to communicate your needs openly without fear.”
― Jefferson Fisher, The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More