Alex

“We are conditioned to be superconscious of how we speak. With hypervisibility as a Black woman comes hyperawareness. Of how you sound, how you look, how you eat, how you walk, how you breathe. It’s exhausting.”
― Oludara Adeeyo, Self-Care for Black Women: 150 Ways to Radically Accept & Prioritize Your Mind, Body, & Soul

“We adjust our tone so we don’t offend others by possibly coming off as aggressive. We withhold words because we fear that if we say something, we will be vilified. We hold the weight of speaking for all Black women with our voices, when we just want to speak for ourselves. Whew. Girl.”
― Oludara Adeeyo, Self-Care for Black Women: 150 Ways to Radically Accept & Prioritize Your Mind, Body, & Soul

“You have to realize the same goes for every other human on the planet. For me, you’re not the most important person in the world—I am. And, from their perspective, so are your close friends, family members and colleagues. Because you live with yourself 24/7 you incorrectly assume, often unconsciously, people think about you significantly more often than they actually do. In fact, for the most part, people do not care about you. While it may sound depressing, it’s actually liberating. It means you don’t have to worry so much about what people think of you.”
― Thibaut Meurisse, Master Your Emotions: A Practical Guide to Overcome Negativity and Better Manage Your Feelings

“You’re not responsible for people’s thoughts. In fact, what people think of you is none of your business. Your job is to express your personality the best way you can while having the purest intent possible. In short, your responsibility is to do your best to be your true self. Then, people may or may not like you, and either way is fine. Remember, the most influential people such as presidents and statesmen and women are often hated by millions.”
― Thibaut Meurisse, Master Your Emotions: A Practical Guide to Overcome Negativity and Better Manage Your Feelings