Emmanuel

“My tragedy is not contagious; you will not catch your children’s death from me. I know you don’t know what to say. I wouldn’t have a few months ago, either. A little advice? Don’t platitude me. Do not start any sentences with the phrase “at least,” for you will then witness my miraculous transformation into Grief Warrior. I will spout grief theory at you, tell you that Kübler-Ross was misinterpreted, that there is no timeline, no road or path in grief. We are all on our own here, in the gloom. I will ask you to please talk about my daughter. That I am terrified that she will be forgotten, that I will somehow forget her. I will remind you that I might tear up, or sob, but it’s OK; this is my life now. This is how I exist, in the here-and-not-now. LAURIE KRUG, Writing Your Grief student, on the death of her daughter, Kat”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand