Jamie Tsai

“Straight men don’t face the struggle I face, and I envy them for that. But they too often miss out on the chance to know other men deeply. The “masculinity” they’ve learned from society teaches them to hold one another at a distance, to befriend with bravado instead of with sincerity. My gay heart knows by instinct what so many straight men must fight to learn: that men were designed to know one another deeply, to be intimate, to love with a love that isn’t afraid of looking unmasculine.”
― Gregory Coles, Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey of Faith and Sexual Identity

“We never know whom we marry; we just think we do. Or even if we first marry the right person, just give it a while and he or she will change. For marriage, being [the enormous thing it is] means we are not the same person after we have entered it. The primary problem is . . . learning how to love and care for the stranger to whom you find yourself married.”
― Kathy Keller

“We became friends, close friends, closer friends. We shared secrets. My heart felt more whole when I was with him. When we were apart, I thought about him. I was in love. Doomsday was upon us. And then, to my surprise, doomsday never came. As our relationship grew stronger and deeper, it became more life-giving. I loved him (in a messy, don’t-try-this-at-home-kids kind of way), and he loved me (though rather differently, I assumed), and it was strange and wonderful and at the same time perfectly ordinary. The fact that I was drawn to him in too many ways—that I had to struggle not to make him the object of my fantasies—that made things even more complicated. But it was worth the struggle to love and be loved deeply.”
― Gregory Coles, Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey of Faith and Sexual Identity

“She could see his reasoning. Or rather, his unreasoning. He could win all he wanted, but he knew in his heart that there was always someone who could destroy him.
…
“You don’t understand”, he said.
“Yes I do.”
“No you don’t. I don’t want to beat Peter.”
“Then what do you want?”
“I want him to love me.”
― Orson Scott Card, Ender’s Game