“The near enemy of love is attachment. Attachment masquerades as love. It says, “I will love this person (because I need something from them).” Or, “I’ll love you if you’ll love me back. I’ll love you, but only if you will be the way I want.” This isn’t the fullness of love. Instead there is attachment—there is clinging and fear. True love allows, honors, and appreciates; attachment grasps, demands, needs, and aims to possess.”
― Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
― Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
“I could never step lightly enough or run fast enough to get away from the cracking, so I made everything around me so loud that it drowned out the sound.”
― Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
― Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
“Gradually the waiting began to feel less like waiting and more like this was simply what life was: the distracting tasks undertaken while the thing you are waiting for continues not to happen.”
― Conversations with Friends
― Conversations with Friends
“You could be erased a little so that there was less of you, less confidence, less freedom, or your rights could be eroded, your body invaded so that it was less and less yours, you could be rubbed out altogether, and none of those possibilities seemed particularly remote. All the worst things that happened to other women because they were women could happen to you because you were a woman. Even if you weren’t killed, something in you was, your sense of freedom, equality, confidence”
― Recollections of My Nonexistence
― Recollections of My Nonexistence
“Beauty isn't actually what you look like; beauty is the preferences that reproduce the existing social order.”
― Thick: And Other Essays
― Thick: And Other Essays
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