“You could be erased a little so that there was less of you, less confidence, less freedom, or your rights could be eroded, your body invaded so that it was less and less yours, you could be rubbed out altogether, and none of those possibilities seemed particularly remote. All the worst things that happened to other women because they were women could happen to you because you were a woman. Even if you weren’t killed, something in you was, your sense of freedom, equality, confidence”
― Recollections of My Nonexistence
― Recollections of My Nonexistence
“Beauty isn't actually what you look like; beauty is the preferences that reproduce the existing social order.”
― Thick: And Other Essays
― Thick: And Other Essays
“What is armor after all but a cage that moves with you?”
― Recollections of My Nonexistence: A Memoir
― Recollections of My Nonexistence: A Memoir
“But if I believe that I can become beautiful, I become an economic subject. My desire becomes a marker.”
― Thick: And Other Essays
― Thick: And Other Essays
“Beauty is not good capital. I compounds the oppression of gender. It constrains those who identify as women against their will. It costs money and demands money. It colonizes. It hurts. It is painful. It can never be fully satisfied. It is not useful for human flourishing. Beauty is, like all capital, merely valuable.”
― Thick: And Other Essays
― Thick: And Other Essays
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