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“humility includes three features: an accurate self-assessment, the ability to regulate one’s ego, and an orientation toward other people.9 Put more simply, humility is knowing yourself, checking yourself, and going beyond yourself. Let’s look at each of these features.”
― Daryl Van Tongeren, Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World

“Trap feminism says that Black girls who have ever rocked bamboo earrings, dookie braids, Baby Phat, lace fronts, or those who have worked as hoes, scammers, call-center reps, at day cares, in retail, and those who sell waist trainers and mink lashes on Instagram are all worth the same dignity and respect we give Michelle Obama and Beyoncé.”
― Sesali Bowen, Bad Fat Black Girl: Notes from a Trap Feminist

“She said that there was more than one type of perfectionist. And that I qualified because the kind of perfectionist I was, was the kind that abandoned everything if I wasn’t good enough at it. And that’s why I couldn’t finish tasks. Meanwhile, I thought you had to be Natalie Portman from Black Swan to be a perfectionist, all shivering from malnourishment and eighteen-hour practices, but she’s right. I’d rather fail outright than be imperfect. It’s why last year, when I was on academic probation, I couldn’t bring myself to cram for finals and end up with a C average. I just kinda gave up. There’s nothing more humiliating than trying so hard for everyone to see and still ending up a loser. Right now I have As and Bs, and I like to think that’s due to Gina.”
― Mary H.K. Choi, Yolk

“A loving, resourceful family, college enrollment, housing security, and even sound mental health all made it so I could advocate for myself at key moments.”
― Sesali Bowen, Bad Fat Black Girl: Notes from a Trap Feminist