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“Where do I go when a lover and a friend becomes a memory and a dead end?”
― Courtney Peppernell, Pillow Thoughts

“So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations. And the truth is, if somebody else—a person you’re dating, a business partner, a family member—if they’re not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let Them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just Let Them and then you get to choose what you do next.”
― Mel Robbins, The Let Them Theory

“So I’ll stand here for you In the wind and the rain And I’ll be the lighthouse you need.”
― Courtney Peppernell, Pillow Thoughts

“having attachment needs doesn’t make you “needy.” Clients frequently ask me, “Isn’t it codependent to expect my partner to meet all of these needs for me?” But the answer is no. Met attachment needs (and we’re only talking about met attachment needs, not every single need a person has) are simply what’s necessary to feel close to another person. They don’t make you whole, but they do make a loving relationship whole. That doesn’t mean your partner has to love you before you can love yourself. Our partners’ love can help us love ourselves, or help us expand upon the love we already have for ourselves, but their love can’t make us love ourselves—that needs to be happening independent of them.”
― Julie Menanno, Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime