Carol Wilton

“You don’t ‘find’ love, mi amor. You choose it. And then to keep love, you must choose it again, day after day.”
― Patricia Engel, It's Not Love, It's Just Paris

“As Joseph Conrad said, we need to be taught when young to hope, to love, to put our trust in life.”
― George E. Vaillant, Adaptation to Life

“Friendship is not enjoyable unless we take up its expressive challenges. If a person surrounds himself with “friends” who simply reaffirm his public persona, who never question his dreams and desires, who never force him to try out new ways of being, he misses out on the opportunities friendship presents. A true friend is someone we can occasionally be crazy with, someone who does not expect us to be always true to form. It is someone who shares our goal of self-realization, and therefore is willing to share the risks that any increase in complexity entails.”
― Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience

“The reliable presence of people who love us facilitates our perception and toleration of painful reality and enriches our lives.”
― George E. Vaillant, Adaptation to Life