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“people in long-term relationships tend to lose their curiosity for each other. Not necessarily in an unkind way; they just become convinced they know each other better than they do. They don’t listen because they think they already know what the other person will say.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

“It was miserable work, with little reward, and I learned much about the limitations of human kindness, and in particular my own.”
― Henry Marsh, Do No Harm Stories of Life Death and Brain Surgery / Admissions: A Life in Brain Surgery / Dear Life A Doctors Story of Love and Loss / Quick Reads This Is Going To Hurt

“To listen well is to figure out what’s on someone’s mind and demonstrate that you care enough to want to know.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

“Listening can continue even when you are no longer in the presence of the speaker as you reflect on what the person said and gain added insight. This is not to recommend obsessive rumination or picking apart conversations, which psychiatrist Zerbe said usually has more to do with insecurity than honest reflection. You know you’re doing this when you are spinning your wheels going over and over how you feel about something someone said instead of considering the feelings that drove the other person to say it.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters