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“Seo Eunhyun, whose flesh had tried martial arts his entire life,
His hand, which had endured decades of gripping a sword so hard to the point it'd destroy itself,
His martial arts, which he refined his
Continued to perform their duty, even after Eeo Eunhyun's death.
Even at the moment Makli Hyun died,
He was filled with disbelief and fear.
And Seo Eunhyun, even with his head severed...
...had a smile on his face.”
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His hand, which had endured decades of gripping a sword so hard to the point it'd destroy itself,
His martial arts, which he refined his
Continued to perform their duty, even after Eeo Eunhyun's death.
Even at the moment Makli Hyun died,
He was filled with disbelief and fear.
And Seo Eunhyun, even with his head severed...
...had a smile on his face.”
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“...people living in unrecovered trauma often behave in very similar ways to the people who traumatized them. Over and over I have seen traumatized people refuse to hear or engage information that would alter their self-concepts, even in ways that could bring them more happiness and integrity... the undiscovered traumatized persons refusal is rooted in a panic that their fragile self cannot bear interrogation; that whatever is keeping them together is not flexible. Perhaps because Supremacy in some produces Trauma in others, they can become mirror images. And of course, many perpetrators were/are victims themselves.”
― Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair
― Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair
“The traumatized person’s sense of their ability to protect themselves has been damaged or destroyed. They feel endangered, even if there is no actual danger in the present, because in the past they have experienced profoundly invasive cruelty and they know it is possible.”
― Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair
― Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair
“With a flourish she conjures the image of a rose into her hand. As you watch the flower becomes wrapped in gold then encrusted with a myriad of gems. "This is how most people fall in love," She explains. "They find someone to lust for, often someone who presents a challenge, then they build that one up in their mind into an effigy of perfection. Then, often when they have bound themselves to the object of their affections, they discover their folly.”
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“There are many upsides to guilt, one of which is that the anticipation of guilt can guide your behavior in such a way that it makes you more trustworthy and successful. It can lead to self-control in situations where you’d rather give up (like when you want to hit snooze and call in sick). It can cause you to uphold the goals of your employer and look out for their best interests (which can lead to promotions, recognition, and raises). It can cause you to give to those in need (a habit that leads to happiness and fulfillment). So while it can appear that guilt is a negative emotion that always steals our joy, the anticipation of guilt if we don’t live up to expectations can actually lead us to make choices that meet others’ expectations. And those choices often come with positive rewards and success. This is the upside of guilt: it can be a guide that makes you better. For example:
•GUILT PROMPTS YOU TO DO THE RIGHT THING. Over time, doing the right thing builds positive relationships, helps you reach important goals, and makes you trustworthy.
•GUILT HELPS YOU STAY TRUE TO YOUR VALUES. Staying true to your values brings peace. It also means being authentic, a necessary skill for resilience.
•GUILT IS AN INVITATION TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. It’s healthy to own up to it when you are wrong. Guilt invites you to take responsibility for your actions.
•GUILT CAN TRIGGER POSITIVE CHANGE. If you want to align your actions with your values and be at peace, then guilt, or the anticipation of it, can motivate you to take action to change.
•GUILT CONTROLS GREED. Guilt can trigger fairness when excesses tip out of balance.”
― Let Go of the Guilt
•GUILT PROMPTS YOU TO DO THE RIGHT THING. Over time, doing the right thing builds positive relationships, helps you reach important goals, and makes you trustworthy.
•GUILT HELPS YOU STAY TRUE TO YOUR VALUES. Staying true to your values brings peace. It also means being authentic, a necessary skill for resilience.
•GUILT IS AN INVITATION TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. It’s healthy to own up to it when you are wrong. Guilt invites you to take responsibility for your actions.
•GUILT CAN TRIGGER POSITIVE CHANGE. If you want to align your actions with your values and be at peace, then guilt, or the anticipation of it, can motivate you to take action to change.
•GUILT CONTROLS GREED. Guilt can trigger fairness when excesses tip out of balance.”
― Let Go of the Guilt
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