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“Asexual people are often told they will one day find "the one" and develop sexual feelings and the values society attaches to them. Many asexual folks have to hear this over and over and over again, which thrusts a perpetual image of immaturity upon them. Asexuality is not a signal that a person is necessarily stunted emotionally or physically, and feeling sexual attraction or inclination is not the line everyone must cross to be treated like an adult. Maturity should not be measured by willingness or inclination to seek out or accept sexual experiences. [p. 7]”
― Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

“Maybe you find people aesthetically appealing, but since it never goes beyond that for you, you don’t know what to call yourself.”
― Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

“Maybe other people flirt with you and you don’t notice, or you say and do things that are interpreted as flirting when you meant nothing of the sort.”
― Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

“For the master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house. They may allow us to temporarily beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change. Racism and homophobia are real conditions of all our lives in this place and time. I urge each one of us here to reach down into that deep place of knowledge inside herself and touch that terror and loathing of any difference that lives here. See whose face it wears. Then the personal as the political can begin to illuminate all our choices.”
― Audre Lorde