Amelia V.

“Toxic people cannot fully give you love. When they give you love, it is a reward... They fear that unconditional love will result in a loss of control... Most toxic people believe they themselves are not sufficient, so how could anyone else be enough?”
― John Lewis Lund, How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing With Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities

“True parenting involves gradually transferring the responsibility for life to the shoulders of the child.”
― John Lewis Lund, How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing With Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities

“An emotionally healthy person accepts responsibility for his own happiness and unhappiness and owns his expectations and behaviors.”
― John Lewis Lund, How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing With Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities

“There is a difference between appropriate and inappropriate selfishness. Seeking to become your healthiest and best self is an appropriate selfishness. Wanton disregard for others becoming their best selves and exploiting them for selfish purposes is by definition an inappropriate selfishness.”
― John Lewis Lund, How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing With Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities