Marta

“It is only once it is formulated, named in the presence of the other, that desire appears in the full sense of the term.”
― Jacques Lacan, [(The Seminar of Jacques Lacan: Book 3: The Psychoses)] [Author: Jacques Lacan] published on

“desire's raison d'être is not to realize its goal, to find full satisfaction, but to reproduce itself as desire”
― Slavoj Žižek

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”
― Epicurus

“We don't really want to get what we think that we want.

I am married to a wife and relationship with her are cold and I have a mistress. And all the time I dream oh my god if my wife were to disappear - I'm not a murderer but let us say- that it will open up a new life with the mistress.Then, for some reason, the wife goes away, you lose the mistress.

You thought this is all I want, when you have it there, you turn out it was a much more complex situation.

It was not to live with the mistress, but to keep her as a distance as on object of desire about which you dream.

This is not an excessive example, I claim this is how things function. We don't really want what we think we desire”
― Slavoj Žižek