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How Should a Christian Date?: It's Not as Complicated as You Think

by Eric Demeter (Goodreads Author)

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Aaron C. said: " This book is well balanced! It’s authoritative without being bossy or arrogant. Insights are communicated confidently yet humbly. It does not claim One Ultimate “How-To” Dating Formula – but focuses on what Not to do and who you should be in Christ. This book is well balanced! It’s authoritative without being bossy or arrogant. Insights are communicated confidently yet humbly. It does not claim One Ultimate “How-To” Dating Formula – but focuses on what Not to do and who you should be in Christ. The author combines heart-piercing truth with a nonjudgmental approach bathed in mercy.

The topic of Christian Dating can be off-putting to some. Do you have baggage? Have you made some regrettable mistakes? Did someone break your heart and you can’t heal? Is ‘Dating God’s Way’ a touchy subject? Don’t worry! Eric will walk you through recovering from past hurts and mistakes (and this book won’t heap on more guilt). There is forgiveness at the Cross and healing in God’s love! Your guilt and pain can be lifted. See Matthew 11:28-30 on how to find rest for your weary soul and heavy burdens.

You won’t find any finger-wagging here. In fact, Eric admits his own faults and shares many personal stories. You won’t feel condemned for being unmarried, as he says “both singleness and marriage are gifts from God.” It's possible that you may not be destined to be married; but don’t resort to singleness out of frustration or fear. Don’t give up! There is Hope. This book is saturated in it! Make sure you let God have the final say on your relationship status. Demeter also advises not to pin aspirations on marriage fulfilling you. He admonishes to seek contentment in the Lord!

It’s obvious that the author cares deeply about this topic and his readers. He keeps relationship advice in step with the Christian walk. Just like Father God, Eric wants what’s best for us. Demeter’s book can open your eyes to Biblical standards and gently lift you towards higher ideals and away from selfishness and the pull of outside influences. If you are young or new to dating, this can provide definable guidelines. Eric nicely handles sub-topics that usually are difficult for other writers (I mean, the topic of Christian Dating is awkward itself!). He adeptly tackles such areas by not offering just his opinion. He instead shares tons of research, experts’ thoughts, and covers his pages in Scripture (the ultimate Authority!).

This book contains wisdom that is not often shared in many churches. Demeter breaks down heavy ideas that seem unattainable into simply-stated possibilities, while simultaneously dispelling Christian Dating Myths. Although he wants you to be thoughtful and intentional in your approach, Eric also tells you not to overthink or overcomplicate matters (as jokingly shown on the front cover). His style is straight-forward, mixing in humor and relatable anecdotes. He’s like a cool older brother that has tons of experience combined with a wealth of knowledge at his fingertips. This guide is easy-to-read, yet has teachable material for any audience. You won’t be left unaffected or unchanged.

I’m so glad this book exists. It will help so many people! I wish someone would have discipled me through a book like this when I was young and kept me accountable to its ideals. (By the way: this book’s ideas are not anything new, independent, or radical; just Biblical truths restated in easy-to-understand and applicable ways!). Hopefully, folks who read this can avoid some of the pitfalls and hurts that I myself went through (and caused others). As a married man, I can attest that this book can benefit a married reader too. It helped soften my heart towards my wife, inspiring me to connect intimately, forgive past disappointments, and move forward into God’s plans!

I look forward to reading the rest of this book (and any future books from Eric); and I encourage you to check it out too! You can thank me later (especially if it helps you successfully date and gain the blessing of a spouse!). :) ...more "

Sep 12, 2021 10:04PM · see review