It was my first indication that cancer is uncomfortable for the people around you, and that when people don’t know what to say, they often say nothing at all.
“But unless we make space for grief, we cannot know the depths of the love of God, the healing God wrings from pain, the way grieving yields wisdom, comfort, even joy.
If we do not make time for grief, it will not simply disappear. Grief is stubborn. It will make itself heard or we will die trying to silence it. If we don't face it directly it comes out sideways, in ways that aren't always recognizable as grief: explosive anger, uncontrollable anxiety, compulsive shallowness, brooding, bitterness, unchecked addiction. Grief is a ghost that can't be put to rest until its purpose has been fulfilled.”
― Prayer in the Night: For Those Who Work or Watch or Weep
If we do not make time for grief, it will not simply disappear. Grief is stubborn. It will make itself heard or we will die trying to silence it. If we don't face it directly it comes out sideways, in ways that aren't always recognizable as grief: explosive anger, uncontrollable anxiety, compulsive shallowness, brooding, bitterness, unchecked addiction. Grief is a ghost that can't be put to rest until its purpose has been fulfilled.”
― Prayer in the Night: For Those Who Work or Watch or Weep
“When we want to know God but are too weak to walk, these practices carry us.”
― Prayer in the Night: For Those Who Work or Watch or Weep
― Prayer in the Night: For Those Who Work or Watch or Weep
“When you're a child you long to be an adult and decide everything for yourself, but when you're an adult you realize that's the worst part of it.”
― Anxious People
― Anxious People
“There is eternal brilliance. It is not quite enough to resolve our questions or tie anything up in a nice metaphysical bow, but sometimes it is enough to get us through the next hour. And in enduring mystery, we need just enough light to take one more step.”
― Prayer in the Night: For Those Who Work or Watch or Weep
― Prayer in the Night: For Those Who Work or Watch or Weep
“We give those we love nicknames, because love requires a word that belongs to us alone.”
― Anxious People
― Anxious People
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