Shay

“We don't have to like or support something to accept it. Acceptance just means that I understand the current reality, and I can't change it. I can allow myself to feel whatever I need to feel without judging the process.”
― Nicole Arzt, Sometimes Therapy is Awkward

“Many times, our clients know what to do in a given situation. Therapists help explore the barriers that lie between knowing and doing. It isn’t our job to tell our clients what to do or how to do it. For one, that method assumes we have all the right answers (and we don’t). Our job is to provide support and compassion. We support people in finding their conclusions about how they want to live their lives. We don’t force them on to our preferred paths.”
― Nicole Arzt, Sometimes Therapy is Awkward

“Being healed isn’t about feeling nothing. Being healed is about feeling the appropriate emotions at the appropriate times and still being able to come back to yourself. That’s just life.”
― Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

“I take a longer look at the words on her headstone.
Brave, kind, loyal, sweet, loving, graceful, strong, thoughtful, funny, genuine, hopeful, playful, insightful, and on and on…
Was she, though? Was she any of those things? The words make me angry. I can’t look at them any longer.
Why do we romanticize the dead? Why can’t we be honest about them?”
― Jennette McCurdy, I'm Glad My Mom Died