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If we see low mood as purely a fault in the brain, we don’t believe we can change it, so instead we get to work on hiding it.
“It occurred to me then that identity is a hierarchy. We are primarily one thing, and then we're primarily another, and then another, and so on, until death- in succession. Each new identity assumes the throne of Self, but takes us further from our original self, perhaps our core self- the child. Yes, evolution, maturation, the path towards wisdom, it's all natural and healthy, but there's a purity to childhood, which is diluted with each iteration.”
― Spare
― Spare
“The problem with this is that if we beat ourselves up after a mistake, we add shame onto the guilt and frustration that we already feel about our mistake. That guilt and frustration can be helpful in moving us forward, but shame...shame keeps us stuck. It's a paralyzing emotion. When we get caught in a shame spiral, we tend to make more of the same kinds of mistakes that caused us shame in the first place".”
― I'm Glad My Mom Died
― I'm Glad My Mom Died
“(The fonder the memory, the deeper the ache.)”
― Spare
― Spare
“What we try to suppress defines us (more on this in the vulnerability chapter), or, in the words of one of my psychology supervisors, “Anything unspeakable to you is affecting you.” That’s why we don’t heal shame by hiding it.”
― Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends
― Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends
“I yearn to know the people I love deeply and intimately—without context, without boxes—and I yearn for them to know me that way, too.”
― I'm Glad My Mom Died
― I'm Glad My Mom Died
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