Trinity Dubrow

“According to Murray Bowen (1978), as a child becomes more of an individual, the emotionally immature parent’s knee-jerk reaction is to do something that attempts to force the child back into an enmeshed pattern. If the child doesn’t take the bait, such parents may ultimately start relating in a more genuine way.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

“Internalizing children of emotionally immature parents learn that “goodness” means being as self-effacing as possible so their parents can get their needs met first. Internalizers come to see their feelings and needs as unimportant at best and shameful at worst.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

“You can’t force others to empathize or understand. The point is to feel good about yourself for engaging in what I call clear, intimate communication.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

“How many people get to be awake and aware for the emergence of the person they were always meant to be? How many people get to have two lifetimes in one? So tell me, is it worth the pain to get to live twice in one life? Are you glad you’ve chosen the path of awareness? Yes? Me too.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents