“learned that the urge to control things comes from a very primal place: fear. Fear of being excluded, of not being liked, of things falling apart if we’re not steering the ship. And it shows up in all kinds of ways.”
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
“Using the Let Them Theory, I saw how often I blamed someone else for the fact that I was alone sitting on my couch. Or not making the money I wanted to make. Or how often I said yes due to guilt. Or the decisions I made because I didn’t want to disappoint someone else. Or how often I used the excuse of being too tired to make my health or fun a priority.”
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
“When we’re in control, we believe we can protect ourselves from pain, disappointment, rejection.”
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
“Similarly, a slight change in your daily habits can guide your life to a very different destination. Making a choice that is 1 percent better or 1 percent worse seems insignificant in the moment, but over the span of moments that make up a lifetime these choices determine the difference between who you are and who you could be. Success is the product of daily habits—not once-in-a-lifetime transformations.”
― Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones
― Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones
“So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations. And the truth is, if somebody else—a person you’re dating, a business partner, a family member—if they’re not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let Them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just Let Them and then you get to choose what you do next.”
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
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