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"Life, she thought, was mostly about gradual loss of pleasure. (p.39)" — May 16, 2015 06:21AM
"Life, she thought, was mostly about gradual loss of pleasure. (p.39)" — May 16, 2015 06:21AM
most of us are followers, looking for something to be part of to make us feel better about our own selfishness.
“This process involves three distinct phases: awareness, emotional healing, and empowerment. Yet, regardless of the type of relationship, the process is always one of reclaiming yourself.”
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
“codependent behaviors. Generally these are behaviors that are care taking of others to the point where you and your needs are lost.”
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
“Dorothy's journey through Oz is a remarkable metaphor for the seduction into the narcissist's illusory world and the healing process that ultimately must occur. Dorothy believes that the Wizard is the only one who has the power to help her, and she embarks on one elaborate adventure after another to find favor and win his approval. Yet, the moment she sees past the larger-than-life image of Oz to the vulnerable little man behind the curtain, she begins to claim her own inner resources and power.”
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
“Unhealthy narcissism is occurring when an individual excessively pursues admiration, attention, status, understanding, support, money, power, control, or perfection in some form. It also means that the NPD person is not able to recognize, other than superficially, the feelings and needs of others. The rules of reciprocity are not operating in the relationship. This is not to say that NPD individuals don't often shower others with attention, gifts, or favors. Indeed, they often do. But the ultimate goal is always for some kind of return. The giving may be to foster a certain image or an overall feeling of indebtedness in you, such as an IOU note to be called in at some other time. You, of course, would rather believe you received the gift because you are cared for and valued.”
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
“The overall definition of someone with a narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by a combination of severe limitations in understanding other people and their feelings, as well as an excessive pursuit of what are called narcissistic supplies, such as admiration, attention, status, understanding, support, money, power, control, or perfection in some form. While all of us need these supplies in adequate amounts to feel a sense of well being, the narcissist pursues them with an unrelenting desperation and a keen ability to manipulate others. Meanwhile the outer persona of the NPD individual is generally one of confidence and control, alongside a smooth or charming demeanor. As your involvement with the narcissist develops you will notice that the relationship increasingly becomes one-way with you in the primary giving position.”
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
― The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
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