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“hostility toward the human race may sprout from cruelty in his upbringing, but he abuses women because he has an abuse problem. The two problems are related but distinct.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“In other words, a bad childhood doesn't cause a man to become an abuser, but it can contribute to making a man who is abusive especially dangerous.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“Above all, the abusive man wants to avoid having you zero in on his abusiveness itself. So he tries to fill you head up with excuses and distortions and keep you weighed down with self-doubt and self-blame. And, unfortunately, much of the society tends to follow unsuspectingly along behind him, helping him to close your eyes, and his own, to his own problem”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“Feeling sorry for your partner can be a trap, making you feel guilty for standing up to his abusiveness.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men