Bonnie B.

“من المستحيل تمامًا أن تعرف شخصا آخر بصورة كاملة ، حتى إن كان هذا الشخص ، أو على الأخص في كثير من الأحيان ، هو الأكثر قربًا من قلبك”
― Stephanie Dowrick, The Almost-Perfect Marriage

“It should not be difficult to accept the idea that someone else is, in 'your experience of them', in part your self-creation. But it is difficult and sometimes impossible. Impossible because accepting the idea that you are in part creating your 'other' forces you to take on board a high degree of self responsibility. Few of us easily do that. p.234”
― Stephanie Dowrick, Intimacy and Solitude: Balancing Closeness and Independence

“After all, what is 'poetry itself'? Where are its horizons? What draws a reader to 'read' the world and their own self through this particular medium, even if only occasionally? Because it is often on 'occasions'—sacred or ritualised moments, or moments made holy by celebration or grief—that poetry is reached for, its peculiar intensity and compression instinctively demanded. But this is not a separation from life; rather, it is an illumination of it.”
― Stephanie Dowrick, In the Company of Rilke: Why a 20th-Century Visionary Poet Speaks So Eloquently to 21st-Century Readers

“What helps most is remembering that such a cry or attack or sly blow is a reflection of that other person’s inner state; it is not an omniscient summary of you. Your reaction reflects your own inner state, and that can tell you which aspects of your own inner world are needy of attention. p.291”
― Stephanie Dowrick, Intimacy and Solitude: Balancing Closeness and Independence