MC Shen

“Projecting our needs onto somebody else’s disagreement is very manipulative and makes it impossible for the parties involved to come to an understanding of what they want and need for themselves. It may also lead us to draw false equivalences between people’s behavior, where we just assume that both sides have equal truth because we are unwilling to accept that there might be very valid grievances at play, and that the people involved might never agree to a solution. What we should be saying instead is, “What do you really want here? Do you want to work this out, or do you want to go your separate ways?”
― Ethan Nichtern, The Road Home: A Contemporary Exploration of the Buddhist Path