Brandon
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“The biggest lie is that the fight to address male suffering is separate or at adds with the battle to liberate women. We all experience gender. We are all limited by oppressive gender stereotypes.”
― For the Love of Men: A New Vision for Mindful Masculinity
― For the Love of Men: A New Vision for Mindful Masculinity
“It is within our differences that we are both most powerful and most vulnerable, and some of the most difficult tasks of our lives are the claiming of differences and learning to use those differences for bridges rather than as barriers between us.”
― The Selected Works of Audre Lorde
― The Selected Works of Audre Lorde
“But of course saying 'just let go of toxic masculinity' to a man is like saying 'just relax' to a person having a panic attack. Men will only break free from the masculinity trap when they have a safe alternative, but for the time being they're growing up receiving the message that they are being surveilled and that any deviation from the ideals created by rigid masculinity will be grounds for embarrassment and rejection from men as well as women. The change is first and foremost individual, but it also has to be collective. No one is free from gender norms, and the messages that men receive about their gender is setting them up to fail, particularly in their intimate relationships.”
― For the Love of Men: A New Vision for Mindful Masculinity
― For the Love of Men: A New Vision for Mindful Masculinity
“How can people sit on a train and not notice each other? How can people resist the urge to connect somehow?”
― Jeff Buckley: His Own Voice
― Jeff Buckley: His Own Voice
“Guilt is not a response to anger; it is a response to one’s own actions or lack of action. If it leads to change then it can be useful, since it is then no longer guilt but the beginning of knowledge. Yet all too often, guilt is just another name for impotence, for defensiveness destructive of communication; it becomes a device to protect ignorance and the continuation of things the way they are, the ultimate protection for changelessness.”
― The Selected Works of Audre Lorde
― The Selected Works of Audre Lorde
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