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“Women have cultural permission to criticize ourselves, but we are punished if we praise ourselves, if we dare to say that we like ourselves the way we are. And it’s messing with our orgasms, our pleasure, our desire, and our sexual satisfaction.”
― Come as You Are By Dr Emily Nagoski, Mind The Gap By Dr Karen Gurney & Vagina By Lynn Enright 3 Books Collection Set
― Come as You Are By Dr Emily Nagoski, Mind The Gap By Dr Karen Gurney & Vagina By Lynn Enright 3 Books Collection Set
“On the day we’re born, most of us are celebrated and called beautiful.
But something happens between that joyful day when every inch, every ounce, every roll, and every bump of a girl’s body is celebrated as perfect and lovable precisely as it is… and the day she hits puberty.
What happens is she absorbs messages about what is or is not lovable about her body. The seeds of body self-criticism are planted and nurtured, and body self-confidence and self-compassion are neglected, punished, and weeded out.
Students laugh like I made a joke when I ask, “What would happen if you met your friends at dinner and said, ‘I feel so beautiful today!’?”
“Really, what would happen?” I insist.
“No one would do that,” they tell me.
“But… how often would someone meet friends at dinner and say, ‘I feel so fat today’?”
“All the time,” they say.
All the time.”
― Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
But something happens between that joyful day when every inch, every ounce, every roll, and every bump of a girl’s body is celebrated as perfect and lovable precisely as it is… and the day she hits puberty.
What happens is she absorbs messages about what is or is not lovable about her body. The seeds of body self-criticism are planted and nurtured, and body self-confidence and self-compassion are neglected, punished, and weeded out.
Students laugh like I made a joke when I ask, “What would happen if you met your friends at dinner and said, ‘I feel so beautiful today!’?”
“Really, what would happen?” I insist.
“No one would do that,” they tell me.
“But… how often would someone meet friends at dinner and say, ‘I feel so fat today’?”
“All the time,” they say.
All the time.”
― Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
Nikki’s 2025 Year in Books
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