asafespacebw

“And not because surviving trauma makes you better or worse, but because trauma can make you feel like you’re weird, unlike anyone else, and no one could possibly relate to you or see you and give you what you need.”
― Lane Moore, You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships as an Adult

“That's the thing about "being funny": It actually, often, comes from struggle and trauma--from being doubted, being told you're too much, being told you're too little. It comes from people assuming that because you're funny, you can take a punch that really didn't need to be thrown" -”
― Lane Moore

“We talk so openly, so freely, about body shame, as we rightly should, but we don’t talk about the shame that comes from constantly seeing other people having loving, consistent, reliable friendships as though everyone has that and if you don’t, that’s super weird, what’s wrong with you? That relational shame. What does it say about you that you couldn’t easily find four to five people who all understand you constantly, make you feel seen, anticipate every possible need, and try at all costs to protect you from experiencing pain? And if someone caused you to feel pain, why didn’t they swoop in and hold you while you cried for days, which is always what happens to everyone of course. Why couldn’t you find that, so easily, at the local corner store, like everyone else on earth did, you genuine freak?”
― Lane Moore, You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships as an Adult

“the kinds of connections that are just close enough to what you want, while also being exactly what you currently need.”
― Lane Moore, You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships as an Adult