You didn’t make him this way. A controlling or abusive man lives out his own script, and the woman he’s involved with has nothing to do with it, believe it or not. The exact same behaviors emerge from him regardless of the woman—unless it’s
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“The central attitudes driving Mr. Sensitive are:
I’m against the macho men, so I couldn’t be abusive.
As long as I use a lot of “psychobabble,” no one is going to believe that I am mistreating you.
I can control you by analyzing how your mind and emotions work, and what your issues are from childhood.
I can get inside your head whether you want me there or not.
Nothing in the world is more important than my feelings.
Women should be grateful to me for not being like those other men.”
― Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
I’m against the macho men, so I couldn’t be abusive.
As long as I use a lot of “psychobabble,” no one is going to believe that I am mistreating you.
I can control you by analyzing how your mind and emotions work, and what your issues are from childhood.
I can get inside your head whether you want me there or not.
Nothing in the world is more important than my feelings.
Women should be grateful to me for not being like those other men.”
― Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
“The central attitudes driving the Demand Man are:
It’s your job to do things for me, including taking care of my responsibilities if I drop the ball on them. If I’m unhappy about
any aspect of my life, whether it has to do with our relationship or not, it’s your fault.
You should not place demands on me at all. You should be grateful for whatever I choose to give.
I am above criticism.
I am a very loving and giving partner. You’re lucky to have me.”
― Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
It’s your job to do things for me, including taking care of my responsibilities if I drop the ball on them. If I’m unhappy about
any aspect of my life, whether it has to do with our relationship or not, it’s your fault.
You should not place demands on me at all. You should be grateful for whatever I choose to give.
I am above criticism.
I am a very loving and giving partner. You’re lucky to have me.”
― Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
“Books are Doors and I wanted out.”
― The Ten Thousand Doors of January
― The Ten Thousand Doors of January
“How fitting, that the most terrifying time in my life should require me to do what I do best: escape into a book.”
― The Ten Thousand Doors of January
― The Ten Thousand Doors of January
“The central attitudes driving the Water Torturer are:
You are crazy. You fly off the handle over nothing.
I can easily convince other people that you’re the one who is messed up.
As long as I’m calm, you can’t call anything I do abusive, no matter how cruel.
I know exactly how to get under your skin.”
― Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
You are crazy. You fly off the handle over nothing.
I can easily convince other people that you’re the one who is messed up.
As long as I’m calm, you can’t call anything I do abusive, no matter how cruel.
I know exactly how to get under your skin.”
― Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
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