“I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism.”
― Eat, Pray, Love
― Eat, Pray, Love
“While boys are taught that the things that make them men--good men--are universally accepted ethical ideals, women are led to believe that our moral compass lies somewhere between our legs. Literally.”
― The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women
― The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women
“Sex for pleasure, for fun, or even for building relationships is completely absent from our national conversation. Yet taking the joy out of sexuality is a surefire way to ensure not that young women won't have sex, but rather that they'll have it without pleasure.”
― The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women
― The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women
“The desirable virgin is sexy but not sexual. She's young, white, and skinny. She's a cheerleader, a babysitter; she's accessible and eager to please (remember those ethics of passivity!). She's never a woman of color. SHe's never a low-income girl or a fat girl. She's never disabled. "Virgin" is a designation for those who meet a certain standard of what women, especially young women, are supposed to look like. As for how these young women are supposed to act? A blank slate is best.”
― The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women
― The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women
“Now, should we treat women as independent agents, responsible for themselves? Of course. But being responsible has nothing to do with being raped. Women don’t get raped because they were drinking or took drugs. Women do not get raped because they weren’t careful enough. Women get raped because someone raped them.”
― The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women
― The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women
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