“We seldom consider how much of our lives we must render in return for some object we barely want, seldom need, buy only because it was put before us...And this is understandable given the workings of our system where without a job we perish, where if we don't want a job and are happy to get by we are labeled irresponsible, non-contributing leeches on society. But if we hire a fleet of bulldozers, tear up half the countryside and build some monstrous factory, casino or mall, we are called entrepreneurs, job-creators, stalwarts of the community. Maybe we should all be shut away on some planet for the insane. Then again, maybe that is where we are.”
― A Reasonable Life: Toward a Simpler, Secure, More Humane Existence
― A Reasonable Life: Toward a Simpler, Secure, More Humane Existence
“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”
― The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times
― The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times
“Without pain, how could we know joy?' This is an old argument in the field of thinking about suffering and its stupidity and lack of sophistication could be plumbed for centuries but suffice it to say that the existence of broccoli does not, in any way, affect the taste of chocolate.”
― The Fault in Our Stars
― The Fault in Our Stars
“We are asleep until we fall in Love!”
― War and Peace
― War and Peace
“I simply want to live; to cause no evil to anyone but myself.”
― War and Peace
― War and Peace
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