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“Always seek to allow others the space to be imperfect.”
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
“The one and only skill that resolves the crisis of meaning is that of acceptance.”
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
“What’s happiness really all about? How will I find lasting love and contentment? Can I find it in a relationship with a man? Is there such a thing as a healthy relationship between two men? How can I find real purpose and passion in my life?”
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
“Sadly, our culture raises man to be strong and silent. Straight or gay, the pressure is on from the time we're very young to become our culture's John Wayne-style of man.
* The more pain I can take, the more of a man I am.
* Showing feelings is for women.
* The more I can drink, the manlier I am.
* Intimacy is sex; sex is intimacy.
* Only women depend on others.
* A man takes care of himself without help from others.
* No one can hurt you if you're strong.
* I am what I earn.
* It is best to keep your problems to yourself.
* Winning is all that really matters.
Where did this stuff come from? It's everywhere in our society from the movies heroes we love to the politicians we vote for. Our culture demands that man fit in a tightly defined role.”
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
* The more pain I can take, the more of a man I am.
* Showing feelings is for women.
* The more I can drink, the manlier I am.
* Intimacy is sex; sex is intimacy.
* Only women depend on others.
* A man takes care of himself without help from others.
* No one can hurt you if you're strong.
* I am what I earn.
* It is best to keep your problems to yourself.
* Winning is all that really matters.
Where did this stuff come from? It's everywhere in our society from the movies heroes we love to the politicians we vote for. Our culture demands that man fit in a tightly defined role.”
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
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