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Lords of Finance: The Bankers Who Broke the World

by Liaquat Ahamed

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Dec 25, 2020 12:05PM

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Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts: Using the Power of Pleasure to Have Your Way with the World (How to Use the Power of Pleasure)

by Regena Thomashauer

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Ves said: " Disclaimer: I'm currently reading it so my opinion might change.
Review. I have never read a book like this. A book telling women that it's ok to feel good and even more importantly: that it's ok to prioritize feeling good, and EVEN more: that we are Disclaimer: I'm currently reading it so my opinion might change.
Review. I have never read a book like this. A book telling women that it's ok to feel good and even more importantly: that it's ok to prioritize feeling good, and EVEN more: that we are not just entitled to feeling good but absolutely should stand up for this right and seek out pleasure. It might not be news to some, but it is big news to others. For this reason, I think this is a very, very important message that deserves to be spread around in as many shapes, styles, versions, languages, editions etc as possible!
I suspect that many of the negative reviews come from women who live in very privileged societies and are lucky to be of genetically and socially privileged backgrounds (likely white, educated, upper class North-American women) where women have many rights and/or are way ahead already in their personal womanly development. So some of the statements in the book are either obsolete or obvious to them. But let me tell you that to a woman like me, some of the statements in the book were totally novel, and some were moving to tears. I come from a less privileged culture where the 'normal' is what would be considered verbal/psycho abuse in North America. Sexually, the normal is as follows: if a man sleeps with many women, he's considered a hero. If a woman sleeps with many partners, she's considered a whore. Being sexually active is still considered shameful and disgraceful even in my not-so religious society. Sexually explicit girls are called with a diminuitive word derivative of "whore" by guys discussing them (yes even in front of other women). Among many other synonyms, all with negative connotations. The male words are almost all with positive connotations (think "dude"-class vs "whore"-class). Interestingly, even the words for women who are NOT promiscuous are ALSO with negative connotations. It makes me wonder sometimes if there's ANYthing women can do that would be considered right. We are always blamed for something throughout history, from witchcraft to being too pure.
I have lived in that 'normal' and I am still working on recovering from it. And I'm far from being the worst case. There are still many countries where women suffer terrible physical mutilations, have no rights over their body, over whom to have sex with, or even over their marriage. Heck, until not long ago sexual drive in women was considered not ok even in the US! Let's not forget the sick Freudian ideas.
Personally, I was lucky to move to Canada and start finding the right people and books like this one to open my eyes for another state of reality that wasn't available to me before. I wish one day books like this will sound obvious and obsolete to all women around the world! Until then, any materials that are contributing are useful, this including. And if you have advice and suggestions for other books, please contact me and recommend.
Peace! V ...more "

Jul 06, 2018 06:46AM · see review