Bill Haefele

“God's solution for "I can't live that way anymore" is basically, "Good! Don't live that way anymore. Set firm limits against evil behavior that are designed to promote change and redemption. Get the love and support you need from other places to take the kind of stance that I do to help redeem relationship. Suffer long, but suffer in the right way." And when done God's way, chances are much better for redemption.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships

“As a house can be only be built satisfactorily and durably when there is a foundation, and a picture can be painted only when there is something prepared to paint it on, so carnal love is only legitimate, reasonable, and lasting when it is based on the respect and love of one human being for another.”
― Leo Tolstoy, Walk in the Light and Twenty-Three Tales

“God created us with sexual passion so that there would be language to describe what it means to cleave to him in love and what it means to turn away from him to others.”
― John Piper, Sex and the Supremacy of Christ

“When you cease to blame your spous eand own the problem as yours, you are then empowered to make changes to solve your problem.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships