Alex Dobre

“You were in your head, having a conversation with someone who was not in the car. And it’s a miracle that you’re still alive. Quite often those phantom conversations are with someone who has died or with a former spouse. More likely than not, these conversations represent an aspect of unfinished emotional business between you and someone else, living or dead. Holding on to incomplete emotions consumes enormous amounts of energy. WE”
― John W. James, The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses

“As children, we could not change the actions of parents and other adults. Sometime after our childhood, we may become aware of events that happened before we had the power to alter them. We must take responsibility for our current reaction to what happened in the past. Otherwise, we will forever feel like a victim.”
― John W. James, The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses

“What do you wish had been different, better, or more?” will always help you find what is incomplete.”
― John W. James, The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses

“What causes my grief—the loss or my reaction to the loss? Again, the answer is both. While we cannot undo what has happened, we can do something about our reaction. We can acquire skills to help us complete our relationship to the pain, disappointment, frustration, and heartache caused by what has happened.”
― John W. James, The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses