Adam Werley

“Infidelity is a choice. People cheat because they feel entitled to cheat. That’s it. That’s my simple answer to the painful question of why. I don’t believe people cheat because they’re broken, or they have family of origin issues, or because of the staggering powers of Facebook crushes. I don’t believe people cheat because of midlife crises, which descend on former church deacons like a toxic cloud of musk cologne. I don’t believe people cheat because of perimenopause.”
― Tracy Schorn, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide

“Yes, Lord, I am thankful today again for every reminder of how I have outlived my worst imagination. I will walk slowly through the garden of all that could have killed me but didn’t.”
― Hanif Abdurraqib, There's Always This Year: On Basketball and Ascension

“The “Infidelity is a symptom of larger marital issues” argument implies that if you “cure” the marriage, the infidelity will disappear. Aside from the fact that the majority of cheaters report that they are happily married, it’s not unhappiness that makes people cheat—it’s poor character. Yes, they may be unhappy. People often are. It’s what you choose to do about it.”
― Tracy Schorn, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide

“You are not responsible for being cheated on. That isn’t your fault. But you are entirely responsible for how you respond to abuse. That is on us, chumps. Trust that they suck. And trust that you do not suck and deserve better.”
― Tracy Schorn, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide