Cassandra H

“in relationships, it typically takes about five positive interactions to overcome the effects of a single negative one (Gottman 1995).”
― Rick Hanson, Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom

“Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse.”
― John M. Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

“Like the Second Law of Thermodynamics, which says that in closed energy systems things tend to run down and get less orderly, the same seems to be true of closed relationships like marriages. My guess is that if you do nothing to make things get better in your marriage but do not do anything wrong, the marriage will still tend to get worse over time. To maintain a balanced emotional ecology you need to make an effort—think about your spouse during the day, think about how to make a good thing even better, and act.”
― John M. Gottman, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last

“A warrior believes in an end she can’t see and fights for it. A warrior never gives up. A warrior fights for those weaker than herself. It sounds like motherhood to me.”
― Kristin Hannah, The Four Winds