Cassandra H

“Human nature dictates that it is virtually impossible to accept advice from someone unless you feel that that person understands you.”
― John Gottman, The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work

“Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse.”
― John M. Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

“Like the Second Law of Thermodynamics, which says that in closed energy systems things tend to run down and get less orderly, the same seems to be true of closed relationships like marriages. My guess is that if you do nothing to make things get better in your marriage but do not do anything wrong, the marriage will still tend to get worse over time. To maintain a balanced emotional ecology you need to make an effort—think about your spouse during the day, think about how to make a good thing even better, and act.”
― John M. Gottman, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last

“Your brain is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones.”
― Rick Hanson, Hardwiring Happiness: The Practical Science of Reshaping Your Brain—and Your Life