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“One grows old unknowingly. One accepts the passing of years as a phenomenon that has little bearing on one’s personality. And then, quite suddenly, one comes to the realisation that one’s contemporaries are growing a little old, falling off a little. One realises that one’s hair is white.”
― Nevile Shute

“You don't need to fix everything.
Especially the things you didn't break.”
― Michelle Jabès Corpora, Holly Horror

“In reality, standing up to intimidation and facing down bullies is a bad goal. It would feel delicious if you could do it (which is why we love to watch such scenes on TV), but retaliation carries all the risks of road rage: losing your original purpose and direction and risking injury, guilt, and punishment for the unintended harm you cause. You’ve got other goals and obligations to pursue, and fighting battles with people you don’t like and aren’t going to change seldom makes sense, even if they’re smaller than you.”
― Michael I. Bennett, F*ck Feelings: One Shrink's Practical Advice for Managing All Life's Impossible Problems

“Assuming you’re going to have to live with negative feelings, develop standards for behaving well in spite of them. No, you shouldn’t expect yourself to force smiles so much that they break your face and scare children. You should, however, invite feedback about your behavior from those you trust, so you can be confident that your actions and words don’t hurt people or interfere with your positive strategic goals and, most important, make you act like an asshole.”
― Michael I. Bennett, F*ck Feelings: One Shrink's Practical Advice for Managing All Life's Impossible Problems