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“As adults we don’t play with toys anymore, but we do have to go out into the world and deal with novel situations and difficult challenges. We want to be highly functional at work, at ease and inspired in our hobbies, and compassionate enough to care for our children and partners. If we feel secure, like the infant in the strange situation test when her mother is present, the world is at our feet. We can take risks, be creative, and pursue our dreams. And if we lack that sense of security? If we are unsure whether the person closest to us, our romantic partner, truly believes in us and supports us and will be there for us in times of need, we’ll find it much harder to maintain focus and engage in life. As in the strange situation test, when our partners are thoroughly dependable and make us feel safe, and especially if they know how to reassure us during the hard times, we can turn our attention to all the other aspects of life that make our existence meaningful.”
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
“If you want to take the road to independence and happiness, find the right person to depend on and travel down it with that person.”
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
“adults show patterns of attachment to their romantic partners similar to the patterns of attachment of children with their parents.”
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
“Numerous studies show that once we become attached to someone, the two of us form one physiological unit. Our partner regulates our blood pressure, our heart rate, our breathing, and the levels of hormones in our blood. We are no longer separate entities. The emphasis on differentiation that is held by most of today’s popular psychology approaches to adult relationships does not hold water from a biological perspective. Dependency is a fact; it is not a choice or a preference.”
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
“Paradoxically, the opposite is true! It turns out that the ability to step into the world on our own often stems from the knowledge that there is someone beside us whom we can count on—and this is the “dependency paradox.”
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
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