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“In your relationships you sacrificed your autonomy to gain security and wound up with neither.”)”
― James Hollis, What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life

“Our lives have no outcome other than death, just as rivers have no end other than the ocean. At the moment of death, our only recourse is spiritual practice, and our only friends the virtuous actions we have accomplished during our lifetime.”
― Dilgo Khyentse, The Hundred Verses of Advice: Tibetan Buddhist Teachings on What Matters Most

“In moments of spiritual crisis we naturally fall back upon what worked for us, or seemed to work, heretofore. Sometimes this shows up through the reassertion of our old values in belligerent, testy ways. Regression of any kind is just such a return to old presumptions, often after they have been shown to be insufficient for the complexity of larger questions. The virtue of the old presumptions is that they once worked, or seemed to work, and therein lies if not certainty, then nostalgia for a previous, presumptive security. In our private lives, we frequently fall back upon our old roles.”
― James Hollis, What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life

“a fear-driven spirituality will always diminish rather than enlarge.”
― James Hollis, Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Finally, Really Grow Up