Maddy

“Similarly, in attempting to understand the misogyny paradox, we might ask how it is that so many women are investing in straight relationships, when these relationships so often cause them damage? The queer theorist Lauren Berlant’s analysis of “cruel optimism”—the term she uses to describe “the condition of maintaining an attachment to a significantly problematic object”—may be useful here. Berlant asks, “Why do people stay attached to conventional good-life fantasies . . . when the evidence of their instability [and] fragility . . . abound?” People persist in these attachments, Berlant explains, because the fantasy object provides a “sense of what it means to keep on living and looking forward to being in the world.”
― Jane Ward, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality

“The business of life is the acquisition of memories. In the end that’s all there is.”
― Bill Perkins, Die with Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life

“Start thinking more about how you use your limited time, your life energy, and you’ll be well on your way to living the fullest life you possibly can.”
― Bill Perkins, Die with Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life

“We might also examine the patriarchal and white-supremacist anchors of heterosexual desire in the United States, where Asian American women and white men are consistently ranked “most desirable” in surveys, with the former valued for beauty and docility and the latter for power.”
― Jane Ward, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality