Elysia

“While I do think it’s important to recognize that blaming other people for causing your emotions is reductive, disempowering and, at worst, manipulative, the idea that a person has no responsibility for the emotional pain they cause can be used just as harmfully.”
― Lola Phoenix, The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go

“But you have the capacity to define what fulfilment means to you and you alone and there’s no time like the present to decide.”
― Lola Phoenix, The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go

“the biggest breakthrough was realizing that for some people a ‘calm’ nervous system is unnatural to them and they might seek out or attempt to do things that cause nervous system reactions because they feel so uncomfortable in the ‘calm’.”
― Lola Phoenix, The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go

“you’re also going to be coming to grips with what anyone who tries to talk about abuse goes through: the more popular someone is or the more social capital they have, the more likely it is that the people around them will not want to hear anything negative about them.”
― Lola Phoenix, The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go