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“At twenty-two I was beginning to wonder if adulthood was just a series of endless losses.”
― Chanel Miller, Know My Name: A Memoir

“Women are genuinely trapped at the intersection of capitalism and patriarchy—two systems that, at their extremes, ensure that individual success comes at the expense of collective morality. And yet there is enormous pleasure in individual success. It can feel like license and agency to approach an ideal, to find yourself—in a good picture, on your wedding day, in a flash of identical movement—exemplifying a prototype. There are rewards for succeeding under capitalism and patriarchy; there are rewards even for being willing to work on its terms. There are nothing but rewards, at the surface level. The trap looks beautiful. It’s well-lit. It welcomes you in.”
― Jia Tolentino, Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion

“I do not write to trigger victims. I write to comfort them, and I’ve found that victims identify more with pain than platitudes.”
― Chanel Miller, Know My Name: A Memoir

“There is a certain carefree feeling that was stripped from me the night of the assault. How to distinguish spontaneity from recklessness? How to prove nudity is not synonymous with promiscuity? Where’s the line between caution and paranoia? This is what I’m mourning, this is what I do not know how to get back.”
― Chanel Miller, Know My Name: A Memoir