Hannah

“To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire… those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex.

Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving.”
― Marilyn Frye, The Politics of Reality: Essays in Feminist Theory

“If we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known.”
― Tim Kreider

“The desire to be loved is the last illusion
Give it up and you will be free.”
― Margaret Atwood

“Suffering, sorrow are the inevitable duty of a generous conscience and a deep heart. Truly great men, I believe, must experience great sadness on this earth.”
― Fyodor Dostoyevsky