“I was beginning to see the danger in adhering to a single narrative, hewing to a story. The peril wasn't only in getting it wrong. It was a kind of calcification, a narrowing, a perversion of reality that hardened and stilled the spirit.”
― Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
― Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
“What am I now that I was then? / May memory restore again and again / The smallest color of the smallest day; / Time is the school in which we learn, / Time is the fire in which we burn.”
― Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
― Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
“I don’t want to be a presentist,” the author was saying. Presentism: the anachronistic introduction of present-day ideas and perspectives into depictions or interpretations of the past.”
― Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
― Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
“I tell my students, who are concerned with the question of betrayal, that when it comes to memoir, there is no such thing as absolute truth—only the truth that is singularly their own. I say this not to release them from responsibility but to illuminate the subjectivity of our inner lives. One person's experience is not another's.”
― Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
― Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
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