Melonie

“Love: We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them—we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

“We have time for everything:
to sleep, to run from one place to another,
to regret having mistaken and to mistake again,
to judge the others and to forgive
ourselves
we have time for reading and writing,
for making corrections to our texts, to regret ever having
written

we have time to make plans and time not to respect them,

we have time for ambitions and sicknesses,
time to blame the destiny and the details,

we have time to watch the clouds, advertisements or
some ordinary accident,
we have time to chase our wonders away
and to postpone the answers,
we have time to break a dream to pieces and then
to reinvent it,

we have time to make friends, to lose friends,
we have time to receive lessons and forget them afterwards,

we have time to receive gifts and not to understand them.

We have time for them all.
There is no time for just a bit of tenderness.
When we are aware about to do this we die.

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you;
All you can do is to be a loved person.
the rest … depends on the others.

I’ve learned that as much as I care
others might not care.

I’ve learned that it takes years to earn trust
and just a few seconds to lose it.

I’ve learned that it does not matter WHAT you have in your life
but WHO you have.

I’ve learned that your charm is useful for about 15 minutes
Afterwards, you should better know something.

I’ve learned that no matter how you cut it,
everything has two sides!

I’ve learned that you should separate from your loved ones with warm words
It might be the last time you see them!

I’ve learned that you can still continue for a long time after saying you cannot continue anymore

I’ve learned that heroes are those who do what they have to do,
when they have to do it,
regardless the consequences

I’ve learned that there are people who love
But do not know how to show it !

I’ve learned that when I am upset I have the RIGHT to be upset
But not the right to be bad!

I’ve learned that real friendship continues to exist despite the distance
And this is true also for REAL LOVE !!!

I’ve learned that if someone does not love you like you want them to
It does not mean that they do not love you with all their heart.

I’ve learned that no matter how good of a friend someone is for you
that person will hurt you every now and then
and that you have to forgive him.

I’ve learned that it is not enough to be forgiven by others
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned that no matter how much you suffer,
The world will not stop for your pain.

I’ve learned that the past and the circumstances might have an influence on your personality
But that YOU are responsible for what you become !!!

I’ve learned that if two people have an argument it does not mean that they do not love each other

I’ve learned that sometimes you have to put on the first place the person, not the facts

I’ve learned that two people can look at the same thing
and can see something totally different

I’ve learned that regardless the consequences
those WHO ARE HONEST with themselves go further in life.

I’ve learned that life can be changed in a few hours
by people who do not even know you.

I’ve learned that even when you think there is nothing more you can give
when a friend calls you, you will find the strength to help him.

I’ve learned that writing just like talking can ease the pains of the soul !

I’ve learned that those whom you love the most
are taken away from you too soon …

I’ve learned that it is too difficult to realise where to draw the line between being friendly, not hurting people and supporting your oppinions.

I’ve learned to love
to be loved.”
― Octavian Paler

“It’s loneliness. Even though I’m surrounded by loved ones who care about me and want only the best, it’s possible they try to help only because they feel the same thing—loneliness—and why, in a gesture of solidarity, you’ll find the phrase “I am useful, even if alone” carved in stone. Though the brain says all is well, the soul is lost, confused, doesn’t know why life is being unfair to it. But we still wake up in the morning and take care of our children, our husband, our lover, our boss, our employees, our students, those dozens of people who make an ordinary day come to life. And we often have a smile on our face and a word of encouragement, because no one can explain their loneliness to others, especially when we are always in good company. But this loneliness exists and eats away at the best parts of us because we must use all our energy to appear happy, even though we will never be able to deceive ourselves. But we insist, every morning, on showing only the rose that blooms, and keep the thorny stem that hurts us and makes us bleed hidden within. Even knowing that everyone, at some point, has felt completely and utterly alone, it is humiliating to say, “I’m lonely, I need company. I need to kill this monster that everyone thinks is as imaginary as a fairy-tale dragon, but isn’t.” But it isn’t. I wait for a pure and virtuous knight, in all his glory, to come defeat it and push it into the abyss for good, but that knight never comes. Yet we cannot lose hope. We start doing things we don’t usually do, daring to go beyond what is fair and necessary. The thorns inside us will grow larger and more overwhelming, yet we cannot give up halfway. Everyone is looking to see the final outcome, as though life were a huge game of chess. We pretend it doesn’t matter whether we win or lose, the important thing is to compete. We root for our true feelings to stay opaque and hidden, but then … … instead of looking for companionship, we isolate ourselves even more in order to lick our wounds in silence. Or we go out for dinner or lunch with people who have nothing to do with our lives and spend the whole time talking about things that are of no importance. We even manage to distract ourselves for a while with drink and celebration, but the dragon lives on until the people who are close to us see that something is wrong and begin to blame themselves for not making us happy. They ask what the problem is. We say that everything is fine, but it’s not … Everything is awful. Please, leave me alone, because I have no more tears to cry or heart left to suffer. All I have is insomnia, emptiness, and apathy, and, if you just ask yourselves, you’re feeling the same thing. But they insist that this is just a rough patch or depression because they are afraid to use the real and damning word: loneliness. Meanwhile, we continue to relentlessly pursue the only thing that would make us happy: the knight in shining armor who will slay the dragon, pick the rose, and clip the thorns. Many claim that life is unfair. Others are happy because they believe that this is exactly what we deserve: loneliness, unhappiness. Because we have everything and they don’t. But one day those who are blind begin to see. Those who are sad are comforted. Those who suffer are saved. The knight arrives to rescue us, and life is vindicated once again. Still, you have to lie and cheat, because this time the circumstances are different. Who hasn’t felt the urge to drop everything and go in search of their dream? A dream is always risky, for there is a price to pay. That price is death by stoning in some countries, and in others it could be social ostracism or indifference. But there is always a price to pay. You keep lying and people pretend they still believe, but secretly they are jealous, make comments behind your back, say you’re the very worst, most threatening thing there is. You are not an adulterous man, tolerated and often even admired, but an adulterous woman, one who is ...”
― Paulo Coelho, Adultery

“I only accept and pay attention to feedback from people who are also in the arena. If you're occasionally getting your butt kicked as you respond, and if you're also figuring out how to stay open to feedback without getting pummeled by insults, I'm more likely to pay attention to your thought about my work. If, on the other hand, you're not helping, contributing, or wrestling with your own gremlins, I'm not at all interested in your commentary.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead