Attention is the ability we have to discriminate and to focus only on that which we want to perceive.
“You know who does a lot of good deeds and doesn't have kids and totally understands what's important in life? George Clooney. Unlike me, he doesn't give a fuck what you think about the fact that he's not "selfless" enough to father a kid. He's not writing a book defending his position. He's having sex with a cocktail waitress and then saving Darfur. Both are noble positions.”
― I Can Barely Take Care of Myself: Tales From a Happy Life Without Kids
― I Can Barely Take Care of Myself: Tales From a Happy Life Without Kids
“Despite a 50 percent divorce rate for first marriages and 65 percent the second time around; despite the staggering frequency of affairs; despite the fact that monogamy is a ship sinking faster than anyone can bail it out, we continue to cling to the wreckage with absolute faith in its structural soundness.”
― Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
― Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
“Time was a wave, almost cruel in its relentlessness.”
― The Vegetarian
― The Vegetarian
“I want to swallow you, have you melt into me and flow through my veins.”
― The Vegetarian
― The Vegetarian
“Invalidating a woman’s life choices by saying things like, “Oh, but you’ll regret it if you don’t have kids,” or, “I didn’t think I wanted kids either until I had one,” is like me going to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting and telling the newly sober that eventually when they grow old, they’ll want to take the edge off with a little gin and tonic and that if they could only just be mature enough to control themselves, they could go on a fun wine-tasting tour in the Napa Valley.”
― I Can Barely Take Care of Myself: Tales From a Happy Life Without Kids
― I Can Barely Take Care of Myself: Tales From a Happy Life Without Kids
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