Pawel Ziajka

“It may be said that no two children have exactly the same parents, in that the parenting they each receive may vary in highly significant ways. Whatever the hopes, wishes or intentions of the parent, the child does not experience the parent directly: the child experiences the parenting.”
― Gabor Maté MD, Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder

“Like hypersensitive instruments, sensitive children register and record even minute changes in their emotional environment. It is not a matter of choice for them; their nervous systems react. It is as if they had invisible antennae projecting in every direction, picking up and conducting into their bodies and their minds the psychic emanations around them. They may have no conscious knowledge of this, any more than an instrument is consciously aware of what measurements it is registering.”
― Gabor Maté MD, Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder

“If the decibel count in that kitchen had been measured when the father first instructed his daughter to hurry, it would not have registered at levels most people would define as yelling. The daughter’s reaction, however, is genuine. She picks up, senses, experiences the tension in the father’s voice, the edge of controlled impatience and frustration. That is what is translated in her brain as “yelling.” She is feeling exactly the same fear and outrage as another child would if shouted at in an angry manner. It is a matter of sensitivity, of the degree of reactivity to the environment. This child is emotionally hypersensitive.”
― Gabor Maté MD, Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder

“To the infant and toddler, the world reveals itself in the image of the parent: in eye contact, intensity of glance, body language, tone of voice and, above all, in the day-to-day joy or emotional fatigue exhibited in the presence of the child.”
― Gabor Maté MD, Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder