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Good conflict is not the same thing as forgiveness. It has nothing to do with surrender. It can be stressful and heated, but our dignity remains intact.
“One fundamental lesson for anyone who wants to cultivate healthy conflict is to complicate the narrative early and often.”
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
“Listening doesn’t mean agreeing. It doesn’t mean legitimizing or amplifying what other people say.”
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
“We might still believe a negative story about our opponent, and we will continue to disagree about many things. But usually, relationships make it harder to dismiss and dehumanize other people.”
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
“In his head, he’d ask himself three questions: Does it need to be said? If the answer was yes, then he’d ask himself: Does it need to be said by me? And if still yes: Does it need to be said by me right now? It was surprising how often the answer was No.”
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
“I wish I could appear everywhere in my life the way I felt called to appear those two times,” she said. “Present, open, able to be surprised.”
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
― High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out
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