Alex
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“Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues—it is a continuum. It is a verb, not a noun. And why do we reduce the beauty of relating to relationship? Why are we in such a hurry? Because to relate is insecure, and relationship is a security. Relationship has a certainty; relating is just a meeting of two strangers, maybe just an overnight stay and in the morning we say goodbye. Who knows what is going to happen tomorrow? And we are so afraid that we want to make it certain, we want to make it predictable. We would like tomorrow to be according to our ideas; we don’t allow it freedom to have its own say. So we immediately reduce every verb to a noun. You”
― Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence
― Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence
“It is jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, anger, violence; it is a thousand and one things except love. It masquerades as love—because all these things are so ugly they cannot exist without a mask.”
― Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence
― Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence
“What is needed is that you become aware of your aloneness, which is a reality. And it is so beautiful to experience it, to feel it, because it is your freedom from the crowd, from the other. It is your freedom from the fear of being lonely.”
― Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence
― Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence
“People hate themselves, people condemn themselves—they go on condemning; they go on thinking that they are rotten. How can the other love you, such a rotten person. No, nobody can love you really—the other must be befooling, cheating; there must be some other reason. She must be after something else; he must be after something else. You know your rottenness, worthlessness—love seems to be out of the question. And when some woman comes and says she adores you, you cannot trust. When you go to a woman and you say you adore her, and she hates herself, how can she believe you? It is self-hatred that is creating the anxiety. There”
― Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence
― Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence
“I had been searching for truth, but it is strange to say that as long as the searcher was there, truth was not found. And when the truth was found, I looked all around... I was absent. When the truth was found, the seeker was no more; and when the seeker was, truth was nowhere.”
― Love, Freedom, Aloneness: The Koan of Relationships
― Love, Freedom, Aloneness: The Koan of Relationships
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