Sign in with Facebook
“IFS can be seen as attachment theory
taken inside, in the sense that the client’s Self becomes the good attachment figure to their insecure or avoidant parts. I was initially amazed to discover that when I was able to help clients access their Self, they would spontaneously begin to relate to their parts in the loving way that the textbooks on attachment theory prescribed. This was true even for people who had never had good parenting in the first place. Not only would they listen to their young exiles with loving attention and hold them patiently while they cried, they would firmly but lovingly discipline the parts in the roles of inner critics or distractors. Self just knows how to be a good inner leader.”
― No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
taken inside, in the sense that the client’s Self becomes the good attachment figure to their insecure or avoidant parts. I was initially amazed to discover that when I was able to help clients access their Self, they would spontaneously begin to relate to their parts in the loving way that the textbooks on attachment theory prescribed. This was true even for people who had never had good parenting in the first place. Not only would they listen to their young exiles with loving attention and hold them patiently while they cried, they would firmly but lovingly discipline the parts in the roles of inner critics or distractors. Self just knows how to be a good inner leader.”
― No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
“Compassion as a spontaneous aspect of Self blew my mind, because I’d always assumed and learned that compassion was something you had to develop. There’s this idea—especially in some spiritual circles—that you have to build up the muscle of compassion over time, because it’s not inherent. Again, that’s the negative view on human nature at play. To be clear, what I mean by compassion is the ability to be in Self with somebody when they’re really hurting and feel for them, but not be overwhelmed by their pain. You can only do that if you’ve done it within yourself. That is, if you can be with your own exiles without blending and being overwhelmed by them and instead show them compassion and help them, then you can do the same for someone in pain who’s sitting across from you.”
― No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
― No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
Nicoleta’s 2024 Year in Books
Take a look at Nicoleta’s Year in Books, including some fun facts about their reading.
676 books
|
125 friends
725 books
|
192 friends
677 books
|
497 friends
573 books
|
1,119 friends
296 books
|
575 friends
286 books
|
103 friends
407 books
|
186 friends
29 books
|
288 friends
More friends…
Polls voted on by Nicoleta
Lists liked by Nicoleta
