“When her pain is fresh and new, let her have it. Don't try to take it away. Forgive yourself for not having that power. Grief and pain are like joy and peace; they are not things we should try to snatch from each other. They're sacred. they are part of each person's journey. All we can do is offer relief from this fear: I am all alone. That's the one fear you can alleviate.”
― Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed
― Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed
“When you see an object, it seems that you see it as an entire thing first, and only afterwards do its details follow on. But for people with autism, the details jump straight out at us first of all, and then only gradually, detail by detail, does the whole image float up into focus.”
― The Reason I Jump: the Inner Voice of a Thirteen-Year-Old Boy with Autism
― The Reason I Jump: the Inner Voice of a Thirteen-Year-Old Boy with Autism
“I learned that in these disasters, all we can do is tell our In Case of Emergencies that their grief is real, and if it lasts forever, then we will grieve with them forever.
As far as I was able to tell during those two years, there was nothing else worth saying. It was not going to be all right, ever. Everything doesn’t happen for a decent reason. I was Sister’s In Case of Emergency and I couldn’t fix her emergency. I couldn’t do anything at all except feed her, hold her when she cried, pray angry prayers, keep showing up, and hope that time and my home and presence would offer healing.”
― Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed
As far as I was able to tell during those two years, there was nothing else worth saying. It was not going to be all right, ever. Everything doesn’t happen for a decent reason. I was Sister’s In Case of Emergency and I couldn’t fix her emergency. I couldn’t do anything at all except feed her, hold her when she cried, pray angry prayers, keep showing up, and hope that time and my home and presence would offer healing.”
― Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed
“You have been offered "the gift of crisis". As Kathleen Norris reminds us, the Greek root of the word crisis is "to sift", as in, to shake out the excesses and leave only what's important. That's what crises do. They skae things up until we are forced to hold on to only what matters most. The rest falls away.”
― Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed
― Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed
“Can you imagine how your life would be if you couldn't talk?”
― The Reason I Jump: the Inner Voice of a Thirteen-Year-Old Boy with Autism
― The Reason I Jump: the Inner Voice of a Thirteen-Year-Old Boy with Autism
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